Those Rascal Feelings &  Values
  • OVERVIEW: FRF
    • FRF: CHPT ONE
  • OVERVIEW: CLINICAL
    • TOC 1-12 >
      • CHPT 1 Welcome To Many From Many >
        • CHPT 1 Vault
      • CHPT 2 Aunt Sarah Shares >
        • CHPT 2 VAULT
      • CHPT 3 Lessons for Lisa >
        • Vault 3 Lessons for Lisa
      • CHPT 4 An Angry World >
        • Vault Four: Angry World
      • CHPT 5 Damn & Hot Damn >
        • Vault 5 Damn & Hot Damn
      • CHPT 6 Brain Bishop & Being >
        • Vault 6 The Bishop, The Brain & Being
      • CHPT 7 Little Steps >
        • Vault 7 Little Steps Go a Long Ways
      • CHPT 8 Conflict Moves You >
        • Vault 8. Conflict Moves; Conflicts Are.
      • CHPT 9 Valuing Values >
        • VAULT 9 Valuing Values
      • CHPT 10 John Deere Caper >
        • VAULT 10 John Deere Family Snafu
      • CHPT 11 Nothing is Here. >
        • VAULT # 11 Nothing is here.
      • CHPT 1 2 Antithesis for Nothing >
        • VAULT 12: Anathesisis for Nothing
    • TOC 13-25 >
      • Chpt 13: Choc. Chip Caper >
        • Vault 13 The Chocolate Chip Cookie Caper
      • Chpt 14: Couples / Pairs >
        • Vault 14 Couples Come in Pairs
      • CHPT 15 Plus & More >
        • Vault 15 Strengths in Action
      • Chpt: 16: Action Truisms >
        • Vault 16 Raportee With Nadi: Truisms in Action
      • Chapter 17 We all Hurt >
        • Vault 17 We all Hurt
      • CHPT 18 Parents Lead, + >
        • VAULT 18 PARENTS LEAD
      • CHPT 19 YOUR BRAIN KNOWS >
        • VAULT 19 YOUR BRAIN KNOWS
      • CHPT 20 Out & In: >
        • VAULT 20 Out & In:
      • CHPT 21 Where is Papa? >
        • VAULT 21 Where is Papa?
      • CHPT 22 Who Knows Bill? >
        • VAULT 22 Who Knows Bill?
      • Chpt: 23: Millenials >
        • Vault 23: Millential-Baby Boomers Clash
      • CHPT 24 Ending / Beginnings >
        • Vault 24 Endings/Beginnings
      • CHPT 25. Q's & A's >
        • Q & A Overview One
        • Q & A Overview Two
        • Q & A Overview Feelings
        • Q & A Overview Values
        • Q & A Overview Relationships
        • Q & A Overview Politics
        • Q & A Overview Parenting
        • Q & A's Reading Lists
      • FOR POTENTIAL EDITOR/READERS
      • Getting Outside Help

Vault Ten
John Deere Family Neighbor Snafu 

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Nadi came about being the "Neighbor who Listens" somewhat naturally and as a result of her  architectural   training. Her Indian family background contibuted much to her personality and her way of helping blend differences together to serve all.

She knew from experience that communication is difficult for everyone in that the message one intends to send or does send is often not the message received.

Nadi knew that there were three common communication snagu that could occur, with two being as a result of imerfect listening. On her part, Nadi knew she could misspeak and did so often, although not on purpose.

​She also knew that the listening side could either miss-hear or miss-interpret what they thought was said. Although taught to honor others and not offer an opinion until she had walked "a mile in the other's moccosins",Nadi seldom offered her personal opinion unless she could base it on her or other's experience or she had researched it well and knew the ins and outs of most situations.



Nadi also was a true Indian woman in that she had learned much from the wisdom of her elders, not only the chief of her tribe, but from her mother and other villeage women. Apart of her learning came from many of the sayings that were passed down from generation to generation. She valued the different roles that Algonquin men and women carried out throughout their lives. Finally, her villeage elders had a way of listening, going with a flow (much like meditation teaches) and then make use of the answers that their connection with the earth provided them.

This approach was strengthened when she went to graduate school to earn an architectural degree. Among all the details of space, materials, colors, textures, relationships, and all, was a clear message that structure mattered--just like it did in her Indian nation. She brought that into her neighborhood by listening to all who talked with her as to what family or work structure they were used to and what might have happened to change that. Nadi then often talked with them about putting back in place some structure that was similar to what had worked before. She had no bias about what was right, but knew that all humans seek structure and that when there is a loss, say through a death, divorce or job ending, likely a crisis was about to happen.

All in all, Nadi was a good structural therapist without even knowing that there was a whole organized set of theories and techniques written about and taught in graudate schools that trained professionals for family couseling. In general, she did naturally what others learned by their professional training. Since you do not have the opportuity to talk with Nadi about what she knows and beleives, perhaps a substitue might be to hear from structural family therapy experts on their craft.


  • OVERVIEW: FRF
    • FRF: CHPT ONE
  • OVERVIEW: CLINICAL
    • TOC 1-12 >
      • CHPT 1 Welcome To Many From Many >
        • CHPT 1 Vault
      • CHPT 2 Aunt Sarah Shares >
        • CHPT 2 VAULT
      • CHPT 3 Lessons for Lisa >
        • Vault 3 Lessons for Lisa
      • CHPT 4 An Angry World >
        • Vault Four: Angry World
      • CHPT 5 Damn & Hot Damn >
        • Vault 5 Damn & Hot Damn
      • CHPT 6 Brain Bishop & Being >
        • Vault 6 The Bishop, The Brain & Being
      • CHPT 7 Little Steps >
        • Vault 7 Little Steps Go a Long Ways
      • CHPT 8 Conflict Moves You >
        • Vault 8. Conflict Moves; Conflicts Are.
      • CHPT 9 Valuing Values >
        • VAULT 9 Valuing Values
      • CHPT 10 John Deere Caper >
        • VAULT 10 John Deere Family Snafu
      • CHPT 11 Nothing is Here. >
        • VAULT # 11 Nothing is here.
      • CHPT 1 2 Antithesis for Nothing >
        • VAULT 12: Anathesisis for Nothing
    • TOC 13-25 >
      • Chpt 13: Choc. Chip Caper >
        • Vault 13 The Chocolate Chip Cookie Caper
      • Chpt 14: Couples / Pairs >
        • Vault 14 Couples Come in Pairs
      • CHPT 15 Plus & More >
        • Vault 15 Strengths in Action
      • Chpt: 16: Action Truisms >
        • Vault 16 Raportee With Nadi: Truisms in Action
      • Chapter 17 We all Hurt >
        • Vault 17 We all Hurt
      • CHPT 18 Parents Lead, + >
        • VAULT 18 PARENTS LEAD
      • CHPT 19 YOUR BRAIN KNOWS >
        • VAULT 19 YOUR BRAIN KNOWS
      • CHPT 20 Out & In: >
        • VAULT 20 Out & In:
      • CHPT 21 Where is Papa? >
        • VAULT 21 Where is Papa?
      • CHPT 22 Who Knows Bill? >
        • VAULT 22 Who Knows Bill?
      • Chpt: 23: Millenials >
        • Vault 23: Millential-Baby Boomers Clash
      • CHPT 24 Ending / Beginnings >
        • Vault 24 Endings/Beginnings
      • CHPT 25. Q's & A's >
        • Q & A Overview One
        • Q & A Overview Two
        • Q & A Overview Feelings
        • Q & A Overview Values
        • Q & A Overview Relationships
        • Q & A Overview Politics
        • Q & A Overview Parenting
        • Q & A's Reading Lists
      • FOR POTENTIAL EDITOR/READERS
      • Getting Outside Help