Those Rascal Feelings &  Values
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      • CHPT 1 Welcome To Many From Many >
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      • CHPT 2 Aunt Sarah Shares >
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      • CHPT 3 Lessons for Lisa >
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      • CHPT 4 An Angry World >
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      • CHPT 5 Damn & Hot Damn >
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      • CHPT 6 Brain Bishop & Being >
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      • CHPT 7 Little Steps >
        • Vault 7 Little Steps Go a Long Ways
      • CHPT 8 Conflict Moves You >
        • Vault 8. Conflict Moves; Conflicts Are.
      • CHPT 9 Valuing Values >
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      • CHPT 10 John Deere Caper >
        • VAULT 10 John Deere Family Snafu
      • CHPT 11 Nothing is Here. >
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      • CHPT 1 2 Antithesis for Nothing >
        • VAULT 12: Anathesisis for Nothing
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      • Chpt 13: Choc. Chip Caper >
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      • Chpt 14: Couples / Pairs >
        • Vault 14 Couples Come in Pairs
      • CHPT 15 Plus & More >
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      • Chpt: 16: Action Truisms >
        • Vault 16 Raportee With Nadi: Truisms in Action
      • Chapter 17 We all Hurt >
        • Vault 17 We all Hurt
      • CHPT 18 Parents Lead, + >
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      • CHPT 19 YOUR BRAIN KNOWS >
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      • CHPT 20 Out & In: >
        • VAULT 20 Out & In:
      • CHPT 21 Where is Papa? >
        • VAULT 21 Where is Papa?
      • CHPT 22 Who Knows Bill? >
        • VAULT 22 Who Knows Bill?
      • Chpt: 23: Millenials >
        • Vault 23: Millential-Baby Boomers Clash
      • CHPT 24 Ending / Beginnings >
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      • CHPT 25. Q's & A's >
        • Q & A Overview One
        • Q & A Overview Two
        • Q & A Overview Feelings
        • Q & A Overview Values
        • Q & A Overview Relationships
        • Q & A Overview Politics
        • Q & A Overview Parenting
        • Q & A's Reading Lists
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​Emotions.
In looking at the difference between ‘emotions’ and ‘feelings’, emotions are the most basic. When something new and basic happens to an object in your life or a part of your physiological or psychology body, you are having an emotion. "I feel hot, cool, tired, excited"---these are all statements about emotions. Your sense of life is an emotional form, in which your world experience finds value and defines your relationship with other things that exist.

Feelings come from emotions as a secondary reaction to something. They are the expression of a cumulative effect of a feeling. e.g.  when I am scared three of four times every time I hear a certain noise and I discover that when I walk down a specific road by a stream, I will hear that noise and then I develop a negative feeling about that situation.[1] Emotions come and go very quickly; feeling have much more of a life to them and evoke many memories.  To the average person, it doesn’t matter which term is used. Most counselors agree.

Expression of a feeling.
The direct expression of a feeling is a health, normal human process to follow. When done correctly and timely with a negative feeling, that feeling has thus been discharged and no longer exists. However ever if what one does is to talk about a feeling---intellectualize---then there is little or no discharge and the feeling remains. Listen to the different between these expressions: (1) “I am so angry at you right now, you stink!” (2) I am feeling quite angry at you now for wrecking my snowman; that was not a nice thing you did. Which one is the one where feelings are really expressed versus thinking about the feeling and the event around it?

Go with the flow. 
A practice wisdom term that means that a person feeling will not try and direct a situation but will go along with whatever is happening in an experiencing and exploratory way. One important use of this tactic is when you are experiencing, there is  no battle for control.


Offended.
Americans need to listen very carefully to themselves when one says, “I am offended that you said what you did.”  Notice, this communication begins with an “I” statement, thus identifying the person owning the negative reaction, an offense. However, most people think it to be differently---that someone else has control at the moment I feel and does something to me. They are totally incorrect. Being offended is a situation when your internal values come into play and you yourself actually have you feel bad. ‘Shame on you for blaming the other guy!’

Psychological domains.
One of the most accepted models to guide awareness and analysis of a mental situation. One is to be able to evaluate whether a thinking (cognitive), an affective (emotion or valuing process) or a behavioral action just occurred. Secondly, within each domain, certain characteristics are given to determine an hierarchal  order of the process of each. Thus, there is a huge difference between memorizing something and that is it and actually being able to go two steps higher in the order of complexity and use that thought in an actions. Bloom’s Taxonomies of Learning Domains actually is several taxonomies and looks at cognitive thinking and then affective reactions. Counselors typically use this model very frequently although it has several flaws. Several revisions of Bloom’s model have been offered but the flaws still exist.

Storing up of feelings.
If a feeling is not discharged, it will be stored internally in your brain indefinitely until it can be expressed. Little feelings thus grow into big piles and often slip out at the most unexpected times. It goes against nature’s psychological rules to store up feelings, especially negative ones like anger. The neurosciences are now showing how the brain reacts to these patterns and builds structures on their basis.

Valuing.
This is a verb that stems from the noun of ‘value’, something of worth or non-worth to you. When one is valuing, they are taking action based on a preference or belief. Most people do not know the difference between thinking or valuing and thus mistake a lot of behavior that they think is logical when it is value driven. When done correctly, our valuing process guides us to good conclusions as it saves an extensive testing and thinking process. Unfortunately, when used incorrectly, it greatly hinders relationship and much that is good. Poor valuing is a huge social problem that is underpinning too many social problems in the 21th Century
 


[1] See Potter-Efron, Ronald. (2012). Healing the Angry Brain: Understanding the Way Your Brain Works Can Help you Control Anger and Aggression. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

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  • OVERVIEW: FRF
    • FRF: CHPT ONE
  • OVERVIEW: CLINICAL
    • TOC 1-12 >
      • CHPT 1 Welcome To Many From Many >
        • CHPT 1 Vault
      • CHPT 2 Aunt Sarah Shares >
        • CHPT 2 VAULT
      • CHPT 3 Lessons for Lisa >
        • Vault 3 Lessons for Lisa
      • CHPT 4 An Angry World >
        • Vault Four: Angry World
      • CHPT 5 Damn & Hot Damn >
        • Vault 5 Damn & Hot Damn
      • CHPT 6 Brain Bishop & Being >
        • Vault 6 The Bishop, The Brain & Being
      • CHPT 7 Little Steps >
        • Vault 7 Little Steps Go a Long Ways
      • CHPT 8 Conflict Moves You >
        • Vault 8. Conflict Moves; Conflicts Are.
      • CHPT 9 Valuing Values >
        • VAULT 9 Valuing Values
      • CHPT 10 John Deere Caper >
        • VAULT 10 John Deere Family Snafu
      • CHPT 11 Nothing is Here. >
        • VAULT # 11 Nothing is here.
      • CHPT 1 2 Antithesis for Nothing >
        • VAULT 12: Anathesisis for Nothing
    • TOC 13-25 >
      • Chpt 13: Choc. Chip Caper >
        • Vault 13 The Chocolate Chip Cookie Caper
      • Chpt 14: Couples / Pairs >
        • Vault 14 Couples Come in Pairs
      • CHPT 15 Plus & More >
        • Vault 15 Strengths in Action
      • Chpt: 16: Action Truisms >
        • Vault 16 Raportee With Nadi: Truisms in Action
      • Chapter 17 We all Hurt >
        • Vault 17 We all Hurt
      • CHPT 18 Parents Lead, + >
        • VAULT 18 PARENTS LEAD
      • CHPT 19 YOUR BRAIN KNOWS >
        • VAULT 19 YOUR BRAIN KNOWS
      • CHPT 20 Out & In: >
        • VAULT 20 Out & In:
      • CHPT 21 Where is Papa? >
        • VAULT 21 Where is Papa?
      • CHPT 22 Who Knows Bill? >
        • VAULT 22 Who Knows Bill?
      • Chpt: 23: Millenials >
        • Vault 23: Millential-Baby Boomers Clash
      • CHPT 24 Ending / Beginnings >
        • Vault 24 Endings/Beginnings
      • CHPT 25. Q's & A's >
        • Q & A Overview One
        • Q & A Overview Two
        • Q & A Overview Feelings
        • Q & A Overview Values
        • Q & A Overview Relationships
        • Q & A Overview Politics
        • Q & A Overview Parenting
        • Q & A's Reading Lists
      • FOR POTENTIAL EDITOR/READERS
      • Getting Outside Help